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Over the years I've often heard dads speak of gleefully eviscerating any male foolish enough to mess with their daughter.
Do it. I'm all in, eviscerate away, just don't talk about it in the hearing of your young daughter because I promise you one thing- if you love her that much, she will love you right back. Loving you right back will mean she won't tell you anything about anyone who messes with her.
Why? Why would a daughter who knows her dad loves her and wants to protect her not go to him for help?
Instead, teach her to defend herself. Teach her how to use judgement about her surroundings and her friends. Teach her that she is valuable and that nothing that happens to her can ever change that. Teach her to be a good friend and to stand up and protect others.
Spend time with her and listen. Don't cast her as a princess that has to be saved, that needs a man for meaning or purpose. When she hears you talking about her, talk about how smart and tough she is. Not how tough you are.
Then try to keep her safe anyway.
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Over the years I've often heard dads speak of gleefully eviscerating any male foolish enough to mess with their daughter.
Do it. I'm all in, eviscerate away, just don't talk about it in the hearing of your young daughter because I promise you one thing- if you love her that much, she will love you right back. Loving you right back will mean she won't tell you anything about anyone who messes with her.
Why? Why would a daughter who knows her dad loves her and wants to protect her not go to him for help?
Because she will be too busy protecting you from:
- Prison.
- From feeling like a failure as a father.
- Because she will feel somehow less- and not want you (her hero) to know.
- She'll be afraid that you will freak out and take all her freedom away.
Instead, teach her to defend herself. Teach her how to use judgement about her surroundings and her friends. Teach her that she is valuable and that nothing that happens to her can ever change that. Teach her to be a good friend and to stand up and protect others.
Spend time with her and listen. Don't cast her as a princess that has to be saved, that needs a man for meaning or purpose. When she hears you talking about her, talk about how smart and tough she is. Not how tough you are.
Then try to keep her safe anyway.
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