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I heard something yesterday on the radio that hit me the wrong way. It was a couple of DJ's discussing how God had put a "cause" in their life by making their daughter have Autism. The manner in which they discussed God giving parents a cause made the child seem secondary, it cast the child's suffering as a footnote to the great blessing the illness brought into the parent's lives.
It turned God into the supernatural intentional inflictor of medical suffering. It turned parenting with a cause into something akin to a politically correct Munchausen by Proxy.
It turned my stomach.
My sons' illnesses are not a blessing to them. God didn't strike them with it so I could write an awareness blog. A fallen world blessed them with two parents who were both unknowingly carriers of messed up recessive genes.
Is God in control? Can he bless the situation? Can he work this to good in my children's lives? Is the suffering my children may have to experience because of their illness primarily theirs?
I say yes. Romans 8:28 is a good place to start.
If I find a place where I can reach out and connect with other parents of chronically ill children, great. I hope to. If I can give advice to a new mom that helps her get better treatment for her child, wow, that's huge. But it's not about me; it's not about my identity.
My two boys have a job. They need to grow and be the men that God intended them to be, even if that means working around and through their illnesses. My job is to help them along the way. They are not a cause, they are children. They are individuals.
I am blessed through them, but that's incidental.
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I heard something yesterday on the radio that hit me the wrong way. It was a couple of DJ's discussing how God had put a "cause" in their life by making their daughter have Autism. The manner in which they discussed God giving parents a cause made the child seem secondary, it cast the child's suffering as a footnote to the great blessing the illness brought into the parent's lives.
It turned God into the supernatural intentional inflictor of medical suffering. It turned parenting with a cause into something akin to a politically correct Munchausen by Proxy.
It turned my stomach.
My sons' illnesses are not a blessing to them. God didn't strike them with it so I could write an awareness blog. A fallen world blessed them with two parents who were both unknowingly carriers of messed up recessive genes.
Is God in control? Can he bless the situation? Can he work this to good in my children's lives? Is the suffering my children may have to experience because of their illness primarily theirs?
I say yes. Romans 8:28 is a good place to start.
If I find a place where I can reach out and connect with other parents of chronically ill children, great. I hope to. If I can give advice to a new mom that helps her get better treatment for her child, wow, that's huge. But it's not about me; it's not about my identity.
My two boys have a job. They need to grow and be the men that God intended them to be, even if that means working around and through their illnesses. My job is to help them along the way. They are not a cause, they are children. They are individuals.
I am blessed through them, but that's incidental.
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1 comment:
Amen and amen! God can bring good from bad, no doubt, but this is about your boys and that's all that really matters.
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